Don’t you hate it when people without children judge parents? You know the ones who are scandalised at the sight of a dummy and tut when they see a toddler being handed an iPad to keep them quiet? I’m afraid to admit this but I was one of those people. Honestly I was so smug when I was pregnant, I was going to be one of those mums who only gave my little darling organic home-made food and would stick to a strict bed time routine. Ha! A lot of the things I said I would ‘never do’ I now do on the daily. Not all of it is ideal but they keep our little family happy (and sane!). Here are some of the things I said I wouldn’t do as a mum but totally do!
It’s been 18 months since I gave birth! 18 months!!!! Even after all this time, I’m still a bit obsessed with my birth story. I still can’t believe I went through it. I’ve finally written it all down because, if you’re anything like me, you’ll love a good birth story. This was first published on the lovely mygirlsandmesite.com and you can view it here.
I’m pretty sure that every new mother’s maintenance levels drop a bit when they have children. Even the most tan-obsessed, makeup addicts among us just don’t have the time once their demanding little darlings arrive. Even though my maintenance levels weren’t too high to begin with, they’re at an all time low at the moment.
If you were to ask my husband, he would insist I was high maintenance. However, his idea of high maintenance and mine are very, very different. He was be shocked if I was ever to become actually high maintenance. Instead I’m more middle maintenance, if that’s a thing. I wouldn’t claim to be low maintenance but I’m definitely not high. But like I said, I’m lower at the moment, kind of a lower-middle. View Post
I don’t know if it’s just me but ever since I became a mum, I can’t just ‘go out’. I don’t mean that we struggle to get a babysitter or that the Queen will only settle for me, it’s just that I feel like I can’t. If I really wanted to, I could go for after work drinks once a week, every week and my husband could do the same on alternate nights but, even though we’d only miss out on seeing our little one for a couple of hours (and a lot of nights she ends up in our bed anyway) we just don’t do it. And the reason is guilt. I feel guilty for wanting to go out and be away from my child. I feel guilty for spending money on dinners and taxi fares instead of putting it towards a family outing and just generally feel like I can’t do these things anymore. I used to think Catholic guilt was bad but it’s got nothing on mum (or parent) guilt.
One of my first thoughts when I became a parent was, ‘finally I can embrace my love of Disney without embarrassment’! For years, whenever I would go to Disneyland Paris or Disney World in Florida, I would always play it down. ‘Yes we’re going on a trip to Paris. We may stop by Disneyland, if we have time,’ I would say, or ‘we’re doing a tour of Florida, we’ll be spending a few days in Miami and then we might stop by Orlando and do a few parks.’ When in all honestly, the sole purpose of the trips were Disney, Disney, Disney!
My husband and I are big kids at heart and having a ready-made excuse to go to theme parks is a dream come true. Thankfully, our one-year-old loves Disney (like she has a choice) so now we do it for her (ahem…).